I know we have discussed this on numerous occasions, but this question and the responses suggest to me that we still have a problem. I admit, it is one of the worst phrased questions ever, but later comments from the OP indicated they had done everything we suggest/expect questioners to do - Google, Wikipedia, etc. However, the querent, who said at least twice it was her first foray onto the site, was left, in her own words, "feeling stupid".
Even from a self-serving point of view, this is surely the last thing we want? If the OP's experience is "Exit, pursued by a bear", they are unlikely, to put it mildly, to recommend the site to colleagues!
I somewhat departed from the SE format in trying to offer help (and am frankly surprised my answer was marginally up-voted rather than down-voted!), but suspect it was too little too late. The OP has not returned and I suspect will not. Frankly, this is not the way to grow the site nor, IMHO, is it any way to treat people. We all fell over many times before we learnt to walk unaided.
I don't have a remedy, but I still think we need further discussion on this issue. Would welcome any further thoughts.